Three Days Sober

3 days soberIn substance abuse programs, celebrating sobriety birthdays or benchmarks is considered important to serve as a reminder of the progress and growth one experiences through the recovery process.

I have not had a substance abuse problem, nor have I been in a substance abuse recovery program. However, coming out from under guilt-ridden faulty source beliefs is a recovery process all its own.

Last week, at the end of one day, I realized I hadn’t heard a guilty, attacking voice in my head all day. Two more days passed. At the end of the third day, I was surprised to discover that the voice had been quiet for three whole days. It hadn’t just been suppressed because I was telling it to go away. It was just silent.

It was at that moment I felt like celebrating my “three days sober.” It seems like an apt comparison. I am actively removing something in my life that I had felt was there to help me but was really destructive and full of negative power. I am seeking outside support to gain tools and resources for replacing the voice with mindfulness and critical thinking. I am developing and renewing friendships that reinforce the truth of challenge in all of our lives while at the same time providing space for encouragement and acceptance. Continue reading →

Stuart’s Cape

Our family of five has lived in three homes in three different states in the 19 years since the twins were born. This has meant being either far away or very far away from extended family at different points in time. In order to see them, travel was a necessity. Travel by airplane is an expensive proposition, and when you take the cost of a flight times five, it’s highly impractical, so the travel method of choice for our family was road tripping.

Stuart's capeSeemingly endless road trips are not the joy of most small children, so to make the trips more bearable, we often listened to books on tape while we traveled. What a difference that made! An all-time favorite is a book from 2002 by Sara Pennypacker called Stuart’s Cape. Goodreads summarizes it like this: A quirky, inventive chapter book featuring an unusual hero – an 8-year-old worrier.

At the start of the story, we find that Stuart wants to have an adventure. Because his family just moved to a new town, his packed-up box of toys mistakenly got picked up with the garbage, and he doesn’t have any friends yet, Stuart has to get creative. While conceiving adventure by imagining becoming a superhero, Stuart determines that adventures only happen to people in capes. He creates his own cape out of items all found in a box in the hallway labeled Stuff from Great Uncle Nester’s Magic Act. With the rusty stapler he discovered, Stuart fastened together all one-hundred ties he found along with a lone purple sock stapled inside to create a secret pocket. Best cape ever. Continue reading →

Senior albums

When our oldest finished high school, I created a video montage of “18 years in 18 minutes” for his graduation open house. Then I took the photos from the montage and arranged them into a digitally created photo album. I had two copies printed – one for me and one for him. photo-album-for-kids

I planned to do the same thing when our twins graduated high school a year and a half ago. I’ve tried to create traditions within our family, especially those that are about preserving memories. Much of the process was carried out then, creating the video montages and organizing the majority of the pictures into photo books online. After their graduation open house, I was waiting to receive the official graduation photos and for their eighteenth birthdays to occur before finalizing the albums. Those things happened, but I didn’t feel like finishing the books. I was at a loss as to how to complete them when I didn’t know which name to use on the book for the twin that had already changed his name. So I put the project to the side and figured I’d get to it down the road. Continue reading →